I wrote this a few weeks back and decided to post it. It’s something that I felt  the need to post because I watch so many girls and or women focus on boys/men instead of following their dreams. It breaks my heart to see women give up themselves for someone else.

I believe that love is a comprising type of deal. So, I wrote out a few observations and or commandments that have helped me in my life thus far.

Girl, chase your dreams.

Have a goal. Something that you have a passion for and keeps you alive. Something that you eat, breathes, shit and has wild sex for. Yes, it needs to mean everything to you with God’s permission of course.

Girl, do you.

Be yourself.

Hang with your friends, date yourself and do things that you like.

Buy the things you like, go places that you like and just be you!

Be confident. Dress how you want to express yourself not what you think he likes. If a man wants you to change in order to be with him, run! Run fast! The man of your dreams will love you for you and will only want the best for you. He will not want to change you because you’re already the girl of his dreams.

Girl, love you more.

I watch girls and women lose themselves in relationships with men.

I, myself, was so lost in love that I only thought about his dreams while not working on my own. I thought about things “he” would like versus what I liked. Or, even worse, tried to “become” what I thought he liked because we were complete and total opposites.

How did I wake up? What made me realize how awesome I was? Space.

A few days of not talking, texting, Facebook messaging or visits from him allowed my brain to get air. Space made me realize and appreciate that I living my dreams. I am unique and if he can’t see it then we don’t need to be together.

Funny thing is, that’s when he started to like me even more. When, I was myself.

When you are free and secure. I lost “caring” about what he thought and more about what I think.

Stop giving boys the best of you. Be the girl that all boys need instead of the girls that needs a boy. Don’t be so nice. Loves is amazing and give it but don’t give your heart away. Don’t be clingy. Let them cling to you. You are amazing!

Girl, know your worth.

You show people including men how to treat you by your actions. Disrespect will not be tolerated if they know you won’t tolerate it. Men will try and test the boundaries to see how far you will go. Will you accept late night phone calls and visits? Will you be okay with them never taking you on dates? Will you be willing to give them your body with no effort from them?

 Girl, please get some standards.

Respect your time, body, mind, dreams and whatever you like.

Does he treat you like a princess and a friend? Does he support your dreams and want the best for you? Does he want to cater to you? Or, does he ask you for things constantly?

Do you want to meet his family? Can he meet your friends and family? Does he tell his boys about you? Can you talk about anything with him? Can you be silly around him? And, most importantly, is he an addition to your life or a subtraction?

I digress.

Enjoy your life and remember, the prettiest girls are the happiest!

xoxo,

Tiny Cheree